Wednesday, February 14, 2007

Happy Valentine's Day

I've always loved Valentine's Day. I know a lot of people who knock it as "a Hallmark holiday," but I just can't find anything wrong with setting aside a special day every year to tell your sweetie(s) how much you love them.

Today I got another snow day, so another free day off work. John worked from home because he is sick, and the girls are still a bit sick too, so we didn't really do much in the way of celebrating. I didn't even get flowers...for the first time in, like, 13 years. It's no big deal though. I understand. It's just another illustration of how much having kids changes your life.

Nick Lachey said something in an interview that made me think (hahahah, that's so hilarious to me that I am going to quote Nick Lachey, but it was a good point). He said that marriage is hard, and you have to be willing to put as much energy and effort into your marriage as you do into other aspects of your life (like business and kids). That's why so many marriages don't work. Having kids, especially with all of the needs and issues that ours have had, can really take it's toll on a relationship. John and I are extremely lucky that we have such a strong, solid foundation, because trust me, this job is not for the weak of heart. We are doing fine, and our love for one another is stronger than ever, but we really do need to take more time to focus on our relationship.

We've come to see each other too much as a helper, someone to do one job so I can do another, to carry a little of the weight, to take over when it's just getting too frustrating. We're not taking enough time to enjoy the things we love about each other. It's hard because the kids just demand so much attention and energy. But, like Nick said, we need to put the work into it. If we put even half of the energy that we put into the girls into our relationship, we wouldn't have any problems!!!

So, Happy Valentine's Day John! I love you more than words can express. I can't imagine a better Daddy for our girls in the world, or anyone who could be more perfectly suited for me than you. Well, maybe I could IMAGINE someone, but he could never exist in an actual human person:) Anyway, let's please, please, please, go on a DATE already!


Anonymous said...

How sweet and true.

The preemie experience brought my husband and I closer together.

Valentines is just another day to let them know how much you love them!

Anonymous said...

happy valantimes day every one and it look ilike the girls are getting better

E said...

I tend to follow the path of Jessica Simpson instead of Nick:

'Is this chicken, what I have, or is this fish? I know it's tuna, but it… it says "Chicken… by the Sea". '

See marriage is like chicken, not fish...nevermind. J/K. Can't blame a guy for trying to be funny, right?

Billie said...

I see marriage as more like fish than chicken.

You see, chicken is always good, and basically tastes the same, no matter what you do to it.

It takes a lot of work to make fish taste good. Sometimes it is really yummy and good and juicy. Other times it is stinky and polluted!

I appreciate the humor!

Tertia said...

you are the divine'est person i know. really.

Kendra Lynn said...

I do hope you get that date soon. And for that matter, I hope I get a date soon, too!

We missed out on Valentine's as babysitter, no date.

Ah well...there's always a NON-Valentine's date, right?


Anonymous said...

If there ever were 2 'sweethearts' meant for one another it's you and John!
Go on a date already!
If you need a sitter, let me know :)


LoneWolfArcher said...

Date nights are important. It is amazing how much you can realize you don't know each other if you neglect your relationship. Many couple fall into that trap after kids.

That wife and I are due for another date night!

Kathryn said...

Hi Billi,

Great post - I agree - it's not a bad idea to have a day to remember to celebrate those you love.

This is off topic, but I just recently found you guys and am really impressed with how well the girls are doing. I was wondering if you do any therapies with them (besides PT,OT, and the usual stuff)?